20 Tips on How to Make a Guy Fall in Love with You …

by:Katie

Spring has sprung, and love is in the air! Whenever the weather 

starts getting warmer, we all start wishing we had a special someone 

to spend time with. Sometimes, it can be tricky to find – and get! – 

that great guy you’ve been wishing for. So, here are my top twenty 

tips on making a guy fall in love …

1. Be yourself …

All of my tips will give you tricks and ideas, but I mean for them 

all to be enhancements of who you really are, not make you into 

someone you’re not. If you’re fake, it doesn’t matter if you get a 

guy to fall in love with you, because he won’t really be in love 

with the real you. So, my first idea is to always be myself, no 

matter what, so a guy likes me for me.

2. Optimize your appearance …

Whenever I’m trying to be more attractive to someone, I always 

optimize. Now, this doesn’t mean I starve myself to look thin, buy 

tons of new clothes, or get a dramatic hair cut. Instead, I just try 

to make myself look my best. This means a cute outfit that 

emphasizes my best features, combed and fixed hair, a little makeup, 

a clean bright smile, and a spritz of light perfume.

3. Listen, listen, listen …

Guys love to talk about themselves, and they think a girl who 

actively listens to them is so charming. So, I always listen more 

than I talk when I was trying to attract a guy. Talk about yourself, 

current topics, news events, etc about 20% of the time, and let him 

control the conversation about 80% of the time.

4. Laugh a lot …

Guys are drawn to girls with a great sense of humor, and I think 

humor always begins with a lot of laughter. So, I always tried to 

laugh a lot and be easy to please when I was trying to attract a 

guy. If I want a guy to fall in love with me, I make sure to laugh 

and all his jokes!

5. Have a great attitude …

In my experience, guys like girls with cheerful, sunny dispositions. 

No one likes to hang out with a pessimistic, negative person. So, I 

always try to look on the bright side of life and be a “glass half 

full” person when I’m trying to catch a hot guy. People always tend 

to look my way more often and gravitate toward me when I’ve got a 

smile on my face!

6. Be sweet …

Sometimes, I can be catty… all girls can be. When I’m with my 

girlfriends, we’ll gossip or trash some other girl for being rude or 

trashy, but that’s not a nice way to act. And, let me just tell you, 

I’ve learned that this kind of behavior doesn’t attract guys. Boys 

are drawn to girls who are sweet and don’t gossip, so keep cattiness 

and snotty comments to yourself around your new guy.

7. Flirt …

Some of my friends used to think flirting was beneath them, but I’m 

telling you – it works. Guys just love to be showered with attention 

and treated like a king. So, toss your hair a little bit, throw your 

head back and laugh, grin a lot, and look up and him from under your 

eyelashes. Even those these old tricks might seem tried and true, 

they’re tried and true because they actually work!

8. Be different …

Trying to be unique and different is a way I’ve always tried to 

interest guys. I don’t want him to think that I’m just like all the 

other girls out there… instead, I want to be seen as charming, 

witty, and smart. So, I don’t talk about all those same old topics, 

like school gossip. Ask him about how he feels about current events 

or newsworthy stories and show him you’re worldy!

9. Be witty …

As I said before, guys like a girl with a sense of humor. The best 

way to show you value humor is to laugh at his jokes, but I always 

try to crack a few jokes myself, too. Guys are drawn to girls with a 

funny side, and there’s nothing that draws two people closer than 

sharing a laugh. So, I always bust out a few comments or funny one-

liners when I’m trying to draw a guy to me.

10. Initiate physical contact …

Guys love physical touch, and touching someone is a quick way to 

develop intimacy. So, when I’m trying to attract a guy’s attention, 

I will look for ways to bring physical touch into play. For 

instance, I touch his arm lightly when I’m laughing at a joke, or 

I’ll slap him on the knee playfully if he says something funny, or 

I’ll touch his hand while I’m explaining something.

11. Bring him a treat …

The old saying that the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach 

isn’t just an old saying for no reason- it’s totally true! I always 

bake a little treat for a guy when I’m trying to make him fall in 

love with me, and then I just surprise him with it on a random day. 

When my husband and I were first dating, I left a bag of treats in 

his locker before every football game. He just loved it!

12. Give him freedom …

When a guy’s trying to determine if you’re girlfriend material, he 

will test you a little bit. My advice at this point is to give him 

his freedom, and that will send him right back for more. In my 

experience, if any guy every got the impression that I’d try to tie 

him down, he’d be gone lightening fast. So, let your guy know that 

you value and respect his time with his friends, playing sports, or 

whatever it is he does in his spare time.

13. Let him call you …

When I’m trying to get a guy, I play a little hard to get. I don’t 

call him all the time, try to track him down, or generally make 

myself a bother. I want him to think that I’m too busy out there 

having a great time to bother with him, and that he better get in 

touch with me quickly if he’s interested in sharing any time with 

me! Let him do the pursuing, and he’ll be much more interested in 

you.

14. Practice mirroring strategies …

Okay, this seems a little creepy at first, but just hear me out. 

Whenever I want to impress or charm someone (not just guys, but 

anyone), I do a little physical mirroring. What this means is taking 

whatever physical action that person does, waiting about five 

seconds, and then copying the motion. For instance, if your guy 

rests his elbow on the table, wait five seconds, and then put your 

elbow on the table. Sounds silly, but it works! It creates a 

connection between me and the guy that he just can’t explain. Read 

more about mirroring here.

15. Make eye contact …

Staring deeply into someone’s eyes quickly ramps up the intensity of 

the connection between two people. So, if I’m trying to get a guy to 

fall in love with me, I stare deeply into his eyes while we’re 

talking. Now, don’t look too long, or you’ll appear to be a stalker… 

but you definitely want extended eye contact. Remember the scenes in 

Twilight where all the sexual tension developed between Edward and 

Bella just based on eye contact? That’s what I’m talking about.

16. Don’t appear desperate …

Guys aren’t attracted to desperate, clingy girls who seem like they 

can’t get anyone else. Guys are attracted to busy, happy, popular 

girls who seem like they’ve got it all under control and who have 

the world at their feet. Even if you think you aren’t popular, 

happy, or busy, try to appear that way to your guy. That means, 

don’t say yes if he asks you out last minute. Tell him you’ve got 

other plans, but you’d love to schedule something with him in a few 

days. Play hard to get! One of my favorite dating book, The Rules, 

talks all about this.

17. Be trustworthy …

Guys love someone they can trust. I learned the hard way that 

telling my girlfriends every thing about a new guy in my life wasn’t 

the best idea. Word always gets back to the guy that I’ve talked 

about what he told me or told details about our time together, and 

he always bolts. So, discretion is the best policy. Don’t tell your 

girls every little bit of your private conversations, and your guy 

will trust and respect you much more.

18. Leave a little mystery …

When I am trying to attract a guy, I don’t want to be an open book 

to him. I’ve found that guys like a little mystery… they keep coming 

back for more if you leave more to find out. Think of your 

information, history, interests, etc. like a treasure hunt… give 

your guy little clues, but don’t let him find the treasure right 

away. He’ll want to keep calling and asking you out just to learn 

more about you!

19. Be supportive of his interests …

Guys love it when girls show they’re interested in what guys are 

interested in. So, even if I hate his favorite sport, I’m going to 

watch it with him and discuss it with him to show a guy I’m both 

interested and interesting. When I dated a guy who loved basketball, 

I researched all about it so I could carry on a conversation with 

him, even though I hated basketball. When I dated a wrestler, I went 

to several matches to cheer him on, even though I think wrestling is 

boring. It will attract a guy if you show him you’re interested.

20. Hold off on the physical intimacy …

My last tip has to do with physical intimacy, or making out, heavy 

petting , or sex. If you truly want to make a guy fall in love with 

you, you’ve got to hold out on stuff like this for as long as you 

can. Most guys I dated and are friends with just go after a girl for 

the thrill of the chase at first. It takes time for them to realize 

that they actually care about the girl. So, hold off on physical 

intimacy to give your relationship a chance to develop first. Steve 

Harvey has written a hilarious book that talks about this exact 

idea!

There you have it… my top twenty tips for getting a guy to fall 

madly in love with you. Hopefully, with this beautiful weather we’re 

having, we can get out of the house, get flirting, and meet some 

great guys! Do you have other tried and true tips for catching that 

great guy? Share them below!